Kids Almost Always Need Their Moms...

Even when they grow up...

I know I am lucky to hear from and see my adult kids all of the time.

I have 4 kids from my 1st marriage and Hubby has 2, together which makes 2 sons and 4 daughters and 4 grandsons and 1 granddaughter.

When they were young and had trouble getting along, I stressed to them that they needed to be able to resolve conflicts on their own.  Life lessons, right?

How could I possibly take sides about who was right and who was wrong? 
How could I know what really had happened? 
How could I know who was telling the truth? 

After all it is all so subjective...and how could I judge between all of these kids that I loved soooo much?

My bottom line became "If you cannot get along together in the same room, then separate until you can".

What I didn't count on was that here they are all well seasoned adults and they still come to me to resolve their differences.  

It's just as tough!

BUT...

Rather than focusing on the negative, or how they cause me angst at times...I am still smiling.

I know that many parents due to time and distance see their children and grandchildren not nearly enough and I am so blessed to see (most of) mine several times a week if not weekly. 

During the summer, our house with the large backyard and pool is party central and we all have a blast.

Holidays, weekends, school vacations, any excuse...we make great use of the terms "parents" and "family" and we love it!

Thankful for What?

I have 4 grown children of my own, 2 grown stepchildren (hate that step part), 5 grandchildren with many more to come (God willing) as the 5 only represents 3 out of 6 kids....and I am so very thankful for each and every one of them.
I come from a family of "scholars" that took school and education very seriously. It is in my blood to write as a form of expression - and public speaking isn't far behind.  At the Thanksgiving dinner table it is hard to judge the mood of my family in advance (depending on how harried I am feeling, how many of my dear family arrive late, whether young Troy wins or loses his 1st varsity football game etc, etc) but if I am still in todays mood I feel that I need to address what each of them mean to me. We've had many blessings mixed in with significant hits reflecting todays economy and I feel the need to keep a positive perspective on what family means in 2009 going forward.

Of course, my own children know about our culture of "speeches" before grace and dinner, but with the growing family and newcomers it is often amusing to see the quizzical looks on faces, or panic as they hear their names mentioned in welcome or appreciation...but this is what we do. And, this is what I will do on Thursday - Thanksgiving Day, 2009. I will give thanks to the Lord of all first, but also to my family so that they know how important they are to me (us), how pivotal a part they play in my (our) world, and understand what is expected of them as they grow to become the very best persons that they can be.

No one can ever be too loved, or thanked too much, or encouraged beyond need.

This is what I give back to the world...in the form of my family and acknowledgement of all of the special blessings that have been bestown upon me.